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Post by mecharmor25 on Oct 15, 2004 22:41:41 GMT -5
Ys sites are so rare and it took me quite a while to find this forum. I am an Ys player and a fan of the soundtrack and that is how I ended up here. Anyway I just want to have a question about some life problems that I am facing.
Just as the topic says, I am concerned with the way I look. Now it might sound lame and newbie, given the fact that I am one. But what if a person's looks start to affect your life??
Of course you might say respond and say "looks don't matter". Perhaps humans can only tolerate their breathren's ugliness to a certain point before they act up?
I am always getting negative reaction from people and somehow I can always tell it has something to do with what I look like. The most common negative point that I always recieve is that I resemble someone evil, but everyone I know seems to be afraid to elaborate. Something is scaring them, something is bothering them and I don't know what they are talking about. Sometimes random people and strangers alike just gave me brief stares of fright and suspicion.
Now I am a perfectly sane man and I try to act as polite as possible but it seems to have little effect.
Another thing that bothers me is that I do not know why the girls are afraid of me for no reason all or for a reason that I don't know. In my whole life, I have never had a girl smile at me before, all I can see is fear and suspicion. I don't even know what I did? I am really really confused here. As for the guys, it is harder to detect seeing that most guys including myself like to be cool and minimize being emotional.
Something is wrong, and it has to do with who and what I look like. I am scaring people when I am doing nothing or minding my own buisness. WTF is goin on?!?! I tried to kindly help and trying to find out who I am but I can't.
The best I can get is that I resemble someone, no more, no less. who am I? what am I?
The most painful part is of course, the fact that no girl is not afraid of me. I did nothing wrong. I am so confused here.
Nature can be so cruel sometimes. Perhaps being kind, cool and polite is a scary personality somehow??
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Post by CrazyJo82 on Oct 16, 2004 11:19:25 GMT -5
It sounds like you're one of those extremely rare case people. Have you ever spoken to a counceilor? It's true "looks doesn't matter" but the truth is, it all starts with the look. It's hard to change ones personality, it's harder to change ones look. I think you should seek a psychologist/psychiatrist. We can only give you so much advice here. Good luck. And just for you, I will smile   |
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Post by Jimmy Stewart on Oct 17, 2004 4:38:30 GMT -5
I wouldn't worry about what people think. Really if they don't like you because you don't look like a super model from a fashion magazine, they can go screw themselves. They aren't worth the time.
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Post by LordDarm on Oct 17, 2004 13:06:24 GMT -5
No need for a shrink....I only care what God thinks |
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Post by Adol.Christin on Oct 17, 2004 13:51:25 GMT -5
not every body has a religion, like me...so we don't care what God thinks, were f*cked anyhow....
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Post by CrazyJo82 on Oct 17, 2004 14:56:38 GMT -5
not every body has a religion, like me...so we don't care what God thinks, were f*cked anyhow.... LOL... I can't help but laugh at it because it's sooo true! BTW, here's my philosophy to life or just the way I am... smile! Because you'd never know what a smile will to do others... and frankly, I think I'm one of those crazy people that walks down a street smiling about nothing.... honest |
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Post by FM-77AV on Oct 18, 2004 3:25:07 GMT -5
Umm, that doesn't sound very crazy to me. Because I can actually start laughing for no real reason. It's usually because I think of fun things and can't stop myself from laughing. It may seem odd to others, especially when I just start laughing for no obvious reason.  |
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Post by CrazyJo82 on Oct 18, 2004 11:47:26 GMT -5
Alright! Someone out there as crazy as me! Um... what's that quote from the movie Gladiator? "When death is upon you, all you can do is smile back" Just remember that if you start thinking more positively and smile more, you look will change even though you didn't have any plastic surgery. |
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Post by mecharmor25 on Oct 18, 2004 23:06:26 GMT -5
What is wrong with being right and professional 100% of the time? Why is it the fact that the nicer you are, the worst you get in return??
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Post by Dahlia on Oct 19, 2004 16:55:13 GMT -5
I hate to break it to ya hun, but if you think there's something wrong with you, scaring people away and you're getting upset over it, then perhaps you should do something about it. Maybe it's your hygiene (like body odor, I've never heard anybody tell someone else that they stink because it's very rude, but maybe that could be part of the problem), your haircut, the way you look at people, the way you dress.
They say looks doesn't matter, only to those who aren't afraid to approach you. But if you're the kind of person who is concerned about driving people away because of the way you look, then maybe you should work on being more presentable to people. First impressions are often misleading to who you are. I'm not saying you should turn into Mr. Prep Hollywood overnight (nor should you ever do that anyway), or wearing the latest clothes in fashion, but perhaps modify the way you look without really altering too much.
Personally, I think there's nothing wrong in taking care of the way you look, and you obviously seem to be concerned about that and getting girls to approach you. It may sound superficial, but girls who don't give a damn about the way you look are like diamonds in the rough. But who knows, just my two cents.
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Post by Zeithri on Oct 25, 2004 1:43:24 GMT -5
Ok, first of all. Do NOT visit a shrink, they get paid to "help" you, which they really don't. You think they had helped you but instead they have alterned what you belived in. Second, Looks does NOT matters, if you are a guy and now how to see PAST the looks. Otherwise, the looks is what everybody is looking at, espacially girls. I have never met a girl who can say without lying that "looks doesn't matter", that's just bull. If you are evil, then be so. If you look evil, they say it or ignore the fact. What type of clothes do you actually wear? How do YOU look like? What is your personality? Something IS triggering this when you are near your fellow companions (other humans) to draw the conclusion, maybe you want to meet someone but you really don't, then the harder you try the more "scent of evil" you'll release. Understand what my point is? Umm, that doesn't sound very crazy to me. Because I can actually start laughing for no real reason. It's usually because I think of fun things and can't stop myself from laughing. It may seem odd to others, especially when I just start laughing for no obvious reason. Haha, the one-second laugh  |
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Post by CrazyJo82 on Oct 25, 2004 17:26:49 GMT -5
Second, Looks does NOT matters, if you are a guy and now how to see PAST the looks. Otherwise, the looks is what everybody is looking at, espacially girls. I have never met a girl who can say without lying that "looks doesn't matter", that's just bull. I'd say look doesn't matter but unconciously it matters a bit. However, when someone DOES get to you know the person that you are... looks is only an after thought. I do believe your personally is more important then your look. And do smile... it's the little things that makes you feel better. Try thinking of something funny you saw or read and smile a bit. You will feel better |
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Post by Zeithri on Oct 27, 2004 12:25:35 GMT -5
Ofcourse looks DO matter, but NOT really.
The first thing I look on a girl is her eyes, next haircolor. If that intresst me further, THEN I look at clothes. If more intresst has been "born, then I would CONSIDER to get to know this girls personality and if she has a good or bad.
Well, you guess it
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Post by senpi on Feb 3, 2005 23:19:12 GMT -5
Ofcourse looks DO matter, but NOT really. Looks don't matter sh t. If that is true, how come i have never had a girlfriend. I have a damn six pack, work out all the time and am fairly good looking. People are interested in money. I see the ugliest and most idiotic men(with money) with the hottest girls ever. Looks don't matter at all. Just be an idiot who likes all the "cool" stuff and get yourself a nice car. |
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Post by CrazyJo82 on Feb 4, 2005 1:52:15 GMT -5
then those are the stupid girls... Really, if the guy is ugly and has money and that's the only reason why she's with him (money), then she's a stupid girl.
A smart girl would know her strengths and wanted to be treated like a human being.
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Post by **Ranpha** on Feb 5, 2005 5:17:14 GMT -5
I will not lie- looks DO play a small part in your opinion about people: for example- If you smell, have greasy hair, are obese etc etc it just send out a message that you dont care about yourself. Whereas If you smell nice, look nice etc etc, it shows you are willing to make an effort for yourself. But OF COURSE nothing will matter if your personality is bad. Not how you look, not how much money you have. A persons looks are the first thing anyone sees, the thing that tells them if they want to get to know them better. If they got to know your personality and like it, nothing will matter to them anymore. I say just ignore what everyone says, ignore the looks they give you and just live life for yourself. Enjoy the time you have. When the time is right, you will definitely find some girl on the street thet will smile her pretty smile at you But for now, just dont give up. I wish you the best of luck, xoxo Rika P.S. Sometimes too much muscle isnt good either. Just to let you know. Girls like the normal, usual kind. Not too skinny, not fat, and not too muscly. What I personally look at first in a guy is his smile, definitely, then his eyes and hair. Then come both his body and his laugh. But of course, as I have already said IT WONT MATTER after I got to know the guy, and liked him. That's all! |
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Post by Adol.Christin on Feb 5, 2005 7:13:21 GMT -5
Looks do indeed matter a bit, because that is the way you present yourself to the outside world. unless you meet someone through a chat server or something like that, then you get to knows someones personality first and looks later (unless they decieve you).
*btw has he been online recently?
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Post by CrazyJo82 on Feb 6, 2005 23:18:20 GMT -5
Oh, I really hate those people that posts once and disappear forever... either 1) They didn't like the board 2) Realized it's not what they thought it was 3) Just being a jerk! But that's just my take  |
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Post by FM-77AV on Feb 7, 2005 4:25:20 GMT -5
5. Amnesia....  |
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Post by Adol.Christin on Feb 7, 2005 13:50:04 GMT -5
6) In jail
happened to our Monach at Utopia (online RTS), at one moment he led our Kingdom to war and we stayed at war with them for about a week, then I recieved an e-mail from him that I had to take over, because he had to do some time. and wasn't gonna be online that often :-)
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