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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Apr 23, 2008 23:22:59 GMT -5
The majority of times I've heard the word "love", it only meant they loved one thing, and not the whole package. It's obvious because if the ones who said it really did love me, I don't think they'd have turned against me.
I understand what you're saying though, wyrd. It's just hard to find a woman who DOESN'T want a one night stand, or doesn't want a summer romance. Chances are, most women our age can't tell love from a bodily function or "that time of the month". I used to want it, I used to *really* want it. Infact, it used to be my greatest goal; not Japan, not being a manager at Domino's, not even the gaming business could compare to my desire to (if I may quote the cheesy line) find "the greatest thing I'd ever learn is just to love and be loved in return". No. Love is not a fairytale. Love is nothing like the movies, nothing like the stories you hear before your mother tucks you in, and nothing like what your grandparents had, or what your parents have.
Since their eras, love has disintegrated into a four letter word; just another dirty four letter word people use carelessly. It describes nothing, it means nothing. Shakespeare knew exactly what he was doing when he made sure Romeo and Juliet died at the end of his story; another just example of how love ends bad. I'd rather have someone take out my prefrontal cortex than deal with the anxiety of "love" again. Believe me... I've looked into the procedure, I will take my chances when I have the cash and find a good neurosurgeon in a legal locale. Whatever psychosurgery it takes. It's better to feel nothing, than to feel anything at all.
That said, you must understand I'd rather be alive and feel nothing than dead; I'm afraid of being deaf, blind and emotionless, but have no problem with being emotionless otherwise. Stupid afterlife theorum, I know not what to believe.
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Post by Incog Neato on Apr 24, 2008 7:45:30 GMT -5
I'm the opposite of those horny women and all those idiots that think love is just a 4-letter-word. :E I'm actually more like wyrdwad where I'm sort of a ME person. It's a HUGE plus when you have someone that respects that. :3
I'm also totally old fashioned and thinks that sex should be reserved for after marriage!!! >:O
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Post by DoubleD64 on Apr 24, 2008 9:59:18 GMT -5
I dunno, I have too many friends and relatives who are GENUINELY IN LOVE to believe any of what you just said. Love CAN be what you've described, and I suppose it USUALLY is... but there are always those rare "perfect loves." They're 80% fairytale, but 20% reality... they DO exist. And I intend to find one. -Tom Not to get on a bad note with ya, but finding that is still practically a miracle to pull off. Especially if your the kind of guy (like me) who works all night, sleeps all day, without a real opportunity to get out of the house. Even if you do get out and find someone who has something in common with you, how likely are the odds of crossing paths for a second time?
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Apr 24, 2008 10:18:08 GMT -5
Ah, now if more women had that mentality, specifically the generation of hellspawn I grew up with, I don't think I'd have much room to complain. I can't really speak for you. My older sister (but youngest sister in the family) could though. I think she's one of the most mature women out there. She's holding up four state jobs to support herself and her daughter (my niece), and not once has she asked for help. She has dated a lot of jerks, but she's quick to realize the ones she can't trust or deal with. Sadly -- and I can't believe I'm saying this, but damn it's true -- not a whole lot of men out there are ready to be committed to a woman who already has a child, and lend enough of their commitment to the child aswell. The eldest sister's the one I have issues with; she's only dated 3 men in her life, married and divorced two of them, and now she working on another Mr. Holier Than Thou from the boonies. (Mr. Huh-huh, Football, Secks, Beer, Shoot Deer, Fish, Huh-huh, Huh-huh...) In my opinion, she should've stuck with the first one, the one she's been married to for 10-11 years. The other two treat her kids like crap; especially the second one. The third one's a little better, but he yells at them like he's deaf or something. He's been having strokes, so hopefully those'll straighten him out. Infact, if he's reduced to a vegetable, he'll have been the best man she ever dated! She's one of those types that *can't* be alone. Every guy she dates is somehow Mr. Perfect, no matter how shitty her and her kids -- my nieces and nephews -- get treated. God only knows if my family EVER has anything to say about him, or the second, it's "God you guys never accept anyone I'm with, you never have and you never will! Why can't you guys just be happy for me?!" emo crap, even though she's ONLY dated three men. (Again, she married the first two.) I accepted the first one, so she can't play that shit-eating card on me! =\ It's like sure, I'll be happy for you when your arms look like big black bruised up old bananas! Sure, I'll be happy for you when your kids have to take another effing chud to court for abusing them! Infact, I'll be happy for her the day social services takes her kids to a better home, because where they've been was only a close second to hell! =\
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Apr 24, 2008 10:52:52 GMT -5
DoubleD64: That's why you make your first impression good and memorable... and then exchange some form of communication; phone numbers, e-mails, home addresses, (If you're poor, heh heh.) etc. I just recalled something. The women I've been "just friends" with. I'm not sure how common this is, but I've been complimented, put on an altar, and blessed -- been told I'm like the perfect man. Of course I pull a Johnny Bravo and ask them what the chances are a so-called "perfect man" such as myself and them getting together are, and I get turned down. I have either bad timing, bad luck, or a bad nose for these things. I seem to do the exact opposite of what they want me to do. The women that think I'm perfect don't want me to ask them out; okay, that's easy. Then there's others... the women that I just don't give the time of day, but make them my closest friends that I share my deepest darkest secrets to. I leave maybe 300 miles away from them, and guess what? I get phone calls, or e-mails, and it's them, asking me if we could've dated. I tell you, it's like they network and pull some kind of prank on me, because they seem to only like me when I'm gone. Infact, most of my relationships *have to* start out as relationships, that "love at first sight" bullcrap, before it begins. I mean, don't get me wrong, I try to hold it as a friendship until they just pressure me to death, and then I feel like I'm being put on the spot. That I have to decide *right then and there*. Otherwise someone else snatches them up the next day. I mean, come on! I'm almost 21 and people are still pulling this juvenile high school crap?! Sadly, I keep falling into the wrong crowds, and keep falling for the wrong women; the ones that think the fate of my universe should rest on their shoulders. At least until they use me up and throw me away like a bloody tampon.
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Post by DoubleD64 on Apr 24, 2008 11:14:09 GMT -5
Looks like you understand my problem quite well, but then again my real reasons I'm not gonna bother explaining because its just one mess after another.
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Post by Red Hairdo on Apr 24, 2008 13:32:30 GMT -5
Love = too damn complicated
By the way, Double64, I've also had that problem when I left school: no girl to talk with. When I entered college this year, there were some gals for me to talk with.
It's easier when there are girls in the enviroment you spend most time in, like work. Or so I think.
Also Wyrdwad and Unsavory Maggot, I understand you. xD
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Post by Justin on Apr 24, 2008 16:08:03 GMT -5
Real love is not complicated. You meet, look into each others eyes, and thats it. The rest falls into place like magic. I finally found it, and its nothing like I could describe. It just happens, and its amazing, but you cant look or expect it to happen. Some people never find it, and its unfortunate.
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Apr 24, 2008 19:07:42 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure it's not that simple either. It could fall apart just as fast as it fell in place. I didn't exactly look for a relationship either, but I ended up with one all right. You wanna know where I ended up afterward? Being scraped out from under her foot with a chisel. Sure, we had an amazing run, and I didn't look, didn't expect it to happen, but it did; and it came undone just as fast. I also learned the hard way that I couldn't trust her, and that I was being played. I learned to enjoy life less, and to enjoy relationships less; so I won't be caught off-guard when someone decides to shit on me again. Edit: Tell you what. PM me in 5, 10 years when you've had a long and healthy marriage. At that point you'll have all the right in the world to brag about how amazing it is. Honestly, my parents are so fed up with each-other 99.5% of the time, I wonder why they don't just split up and get it over with. On the other hand, my father doesn't have a high life expectancy, so who knows? Maybe he'll end it for them.
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Post by Justin on Apr 24, 2008 19:20:39 GMT -5
My mom almost died last year and my parents have been together for over 20 years. They are still happy......
I will email you in ten years, then you can buy me a case of beer for winning the bet!!
P.S I like Coors Light
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Apr 24, 2008 19:24:53 GMT -5
You're on! ...and if I win, Guiness (Draught, please.) would be awesome.
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Post by Grave on Apr 24, 2008 20:04:10 GMT -5
Real love is not complicated. You meet, look into each others eyes, and thats it. The rest falls into place like magic. I finally found it, and its nothing like I could describe. It just happens, and its amazing, but you cant look or expect it to happen. Some people never find it, and its unfortunate. Optimism is so cute. Not a criticism! I mean it! Hey, keep doing what's working for you, right? I'll... keep my feelings in my writing. You probably don't wanna hear them. But hey, if we're all still posting on a Ys messageboard in ten years, I'll kick in a couple cases too! Just because we're still posting on a Ys messageboard! And then I'll drink everything in them. p.s. GUINNESS! THE LETTER N APPEARS TWICE! For a beer everybody seems to love so damn much, people seem to forget how to spell it quite easily. That one kinda bugs me.
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Apr 24, 2008 20:45:53 GMT -5
Haha, maybe I'm just a litle drunnk? Edit: Also, I'll buy a round for everyone in the general area regardless of the outcome, just to be sporty.
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Post by Justin on Apr 25, 2008 1:10:37 GMT -5
Wow, its hard to think of what this board will be like in ten years.... or if will even still be here. Ill have kids by that time, with no money or free time.
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Post by FM-77AV on Apr 25, 2008 3:07:07 GMT -5
Well it's been around for almost five years already.
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Post by Incog Neato on Apr 25, 2008 8:54:02 GMT -5
Wow, its hard to think of what this board will be like in ten years.... or if will even still be here. Ill have kids by that time, with no money or free time. You gotta MAKE time for yourself. :/
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Apr 25, 2008 10:51:13 GMT -5
Oh yeah! That's why I ditched my apartment and came back to my parents; to focus on a career which doesn't involve making pizza and handling lousy customers. I mean, if you're managing a full shift, how do you have enough time to go out and focus on another trade or two? I couldn't get the night shift job, and everywhere's closed when I used to get off work. I don't get how people even have the energy to go to a job after school, or vice-versa. I don't know about them, but I'm typically wiped when I'm done working. Six days a week, and then on my day off I'd hang out at work; occasionally I'd work on my days off too, to assist the people who didn't want to fill buckets of sauce or prep food in the mornings. Lazy cows. Generally I'd have made sure their jobs were taken care of in advance, though. Edit: Not to mention I was becoming a narcoleptic zombie. I couldn't sleep at night; and when I did sleep, it would spell trouble. I had my DS alarm, TrakFone alarm, Cell Phone alarm, one of those old school bell alarms, and... gee, guess that's it. Four alarms to wake me up, with a rough fail percentage of 20%. That doesn't sound like much, but when your sleeping patterns put you on the chopping block, it doesn't help much. I tried sleeping pills for night and started my mornings with coffee or energy drinks, and even then I'd be royally screwed.
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Post by Justin on Apr 25, 2008 13:36:32 GMT -5
Dont eat 2 hrs before bed man. Eating takes a ton of energy for your body, thus making it hard to relax.
I never really realized how much time has passed since I signed up here. has it really been 3 years all ready? This board kicks ass haha
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Post by Incog Neato on Apr 27, 2008 7:27:59 GMT -5
This really is the best message board I've yet encountered, on the whole of the internet. (: Bravo, FM-77, and everyone else as well. Just goes to show you, Falcom fans are awesome. (: Well, that and because we're, uh, mature! But you know, once Ys 7 comes along and whenever the Origin patch comes out, them younguns will come in here and ruin all this tranquility with incessant questions that have been answered 100 times in the past and maybe bring some some dorky trolls along too. :(((
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Post by Incog Neato on Apr 27, 2008 13:16:09 GMT -5
Well, there WAS that whole hullabaloo going on with the Origin translation thread. A lot of the answers were in the earlier posts in the thread and yet people kept asking the same freakin' thing over and over anyway. It almost felt like the whole "Are we there yet?" "No." bit. I'm glad Deuce locked the thing in the end. (Now watch someone come along and post a new thread asking about the progress. :P) On a different note but still somewhat related to the whole age topic: www.techradar.com/news/gaming/xbox/11-signs-youre-no-longer-a-hard-core-gamer-329291
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