Depressed, annoyed, angst, whine

[Incog Neato]

A lot of things have been grating and getting me irritated lately. It's like the Pop'n Music Wii announcement pissed me off a lot more than it should. And seeing some dumbass comments at Engadget right now just made want to register just so I can make a post to tell them to shut the fuck up.

Even my mom's fucking criticisms now and then are starting to make me want to tell her to shove it.
And what's worse, some things that the boyfriend writes are getting on my nerves too.

I usually just brush off stuff like that and don't really pay much attention and not let them bother me but recently, they're almost rage-inducing. >_<

I was thinking that it may be that time of the month but I've been in this funk for the past several days. :/

I think I have some pent up emotions that are trying to get free! But I can't pinpoint the source.

Hirm, it used to be that when I was surrounded by stupid annoying co-workers and customers at my previous job and pissy friends on LiveJournal (i.e. they'd be bitching 70% of the time about life, etc.) , I'd be raging almost every day on LiveJournal. But last I checked, my co-workers at my current workplace aren't annoying and no one on my friends list is really complaining about anything. That's not to say that it's sunshine, happy-happy around me either.

Sigh~~~ :/ :\ :/ :\ (Oh, and I sigh a lot in real life nowadays.)

I think ... I just feel like my life is just at a standstill. I have doors opening in the future but I'm not ready to go through yet time is still moving and I feel like I have to make decisions soon.

[Red Hairdo]

Hm...

Erm, dunno how "safe" or "healthy" this is, but you can always "counter fire with fire", as we say it in portuguese (Brazil only?).
That means, for this case, if something makes you feel either sad, enraged or whatever, you can "play with" something else entirely, but that would give the same effect in order to counter whatever gave you said effect with it. The "newest bad feeling" will get over the "oldest bad feelings" of the same kind.
... It's crazy. ' whenever this happens to me though it wasn't on purpose, and sometimes it may even worsen (but not always!).

>_< Sorry for the horrible suggestion.
Actually, I ask you don't follow it. ;_;

...
Well, I also have another suggestion.
Swim.
For the purpose of making your body itself... work. Live.
You'll feel a lot more "free", and yet the method will make you feel healthy. I have done that in the past (ages ago), and I know you can't go wrong with it.
... Actually I'm thinking of doing this again, but only because swimming is so good. xDD

[AllenSmithee]

Yeah, sometimes this happens to me. Well, I've never had "that time of month" obviously, but I've got friends who do! Two of them both get it around the same time and it can be quite grating, but I just act extra nice and never get angry with them.

-- I don't think I was supposed to take that comment seriously, but alas here I am talking about a certain cycle. *sigh* I'm an ass.

Anyways, when I get in a bad mood I don't do anything, except mope. This does not help. At all. Do something, and if I could recommend it, get a little active! Sports for me are a godsend. They have a nice competitive nature, no two games are the same, I get to meet new people, and as I'd like to think (anyways) the sweating is cleansing bad spirits.

Also, try praying. Like, do it as if it is a confessional of sorts. I'm not saying to any specific God, just whomever/whatever/whenever you like. Talk about all the things that bother you and clear your head. Hell, talk about it outloud! It'll be easier to think of it, and it might make you cry better. Crying also cleanses bad spirits. I do something like this and talk to my kitty or my teddy bear (yes, I still have one, and he is a boss ) and it is nice and good.

Step away from your hobbies for a bit, and cool it all down. Try finding new, anti-stress hobbies and it'll be good! Listen to some calming music! Or hell, listen to angry music and then write a song! Try singing all of your pains away in an emotional composition that embodies all your trouble. I do it, and I really have to record it or something so that I can revisit it and make a good professional type version, hahaha.

Laugh. I'd recommend watching Scrubs. It has just enough emotional scenes and lessons that you might realize what is wrong and it is such a riot along the way.


Bad help, but I'm trying! I hope you can feel better

[Red Hairdo]

We are sending love and care to nunuu. xD She will get better.

[Ascended Mermaid]

Yeah, I get what you mean. Steph actually managed to piss me off and vice-versa -- and while we left on good terms, I dunno... something feels pretty off. Like all of the ground rules, I can't call her baby anymore, and quickly learning that "go with the flow" actually either means "wait for me", "stop being neurotic" or "don't do it". I hate that things have to be so different -- because when I left to see her, everything was going pretty damn good. Is this me changing for the better, or is it that I'm not being myself?

Anyway, my advice... ... ... pfft, I'm usually good at this, but the fact of the matter is, I don't have advice. Just hang in there, don't push yourself too hard, and if you think it is that time of the month, try to be patient and wait until your system is 'clean' before making any kind of big decisions. That's all I've got. I wish you the best Nunuu, hope things get better. Keep us informed.

[Lumi]

I think we can all speak from experience on this kind of thing, in varying capacity. I know I sure can, lately especially. ^^; I'm not personally one to vent my drama on others (even close friends) at great length, but it's always good to know there are those you can turn to who'll listen and won't rag on you for it.

Simply put-- if you have at least one good friend who's totally on the level with you, they're your very best medicine. Even if you don't want to spill your guts to them, or rant, just having that connection is awesome enough to make you forget the worst of it. Laughter being the best medicine and all that-- it's a corny old adage, but I fully believe in the truth of it. :)

I totally understand the whole 'life at a standstill' thing, too. -_-; I'm with you there. The sad fact is, if you don't feel ready to jump ahead, then you might not be. So the thing to do (in theory, anyway) is to figure out what you need to do to BE ready... or just hang in there and hold out until you are. Don't be too hard on yourself, or too hurried.

Long post is long. But... hopefully a bit helpful too~

[Yakra]

It's that time of the month~ I'm telling ye it is! (And even if it isn't, even if it wasn't supposed to be, beware, it might just soon.... be. [Because that always ends up happening to me whenever I end up getting really, really, really stressed about work! So perhaps... something got on your nerves so much that.... hem?])

That aside.... let's see, I think... I would normally try to distance myself from the thing that is bothering me? Because whenever I go through a phase like what you're describing your's to be like, I always end up blowing up at someone (usually my mom, over things as stupid as aubergines), bawling me eyes out, and then later, when the angsty phase passes, I just feel like a fool.

Walks do help though! (Since I can't swim, I'd recommend that! And listening to happy songs!) Ignoring dumbass comments helps too! Even if one has to force oneself too.

And.... totally opposite to Lumi's comment (sorry!).... really good close friends don't help. I don't know about ye all, but somehow, I always end up getting irritated by them the most. Perhaps it's because when one end up getting too close to someone, one starts expecting too much out of them, and then one starts getting mad easier?





But yip, I can relate to the feeling of life being at a standstill, having decisions that need to be made and steps that need to be taken to move forward, but one just feeling like a lazy bum and.... just not doing it. -___-'

[psybuster]

Take it up with people one at a time. If they care, at the very least they'll listen, even if they can't help/don't have a solution. Sometimes that just might be all you need anyway.

I don't think your case is anywhere near this extreme, but sometimes certain people just aren't worth it, or if they were, they may not be anymore. I'm been pretty damn irritable my entire life because certain people *cough*family*cough* never seem to stop putting me down and insulting me on a daily basis regardless of how well or poorly I'm doing. Frankly as soon as I'm financially stable enough on my own chances are they'll never hear from me again. At the very least I'm not exposing any children I may have to them...

Sort of agreeing with Yakra's point too, my best friend has been ridiculously overbearing (something that's never happened before) and unreasonable that it's bordering on abuse. I don't think there's really any solution to this other than to call her out on it and talk things out from there. Even if it ends with us not being friends anymore that's a price I'm willing to pay to protect my well-being and interests.

Guess all of this makes me a bridge burner, but it has its benefits >_>

[Incog Neato]

Thankees all for your replies and advice! :D I'm feeling better today and haven't sighed yet. I think. I might just be too used to it to notice now. ^^; (Guess those few hours of DMC4 last night helped. Took out rage on stupid enemies and annoying exploration.)

You know, I should be more active. I'm a lazy bum that sits at work in front of a computer 8 hours a day and then goes home and sits in front of my own computer for another few hours.

I SHOULD go walking about I've developed some problem with my right leg near the knee area. I'm having it checked out by a specialist in late July. :| Hope it's not some blood clot thingy. It happens periodically where, if I'm walking, it'll briefly cramp up (well, more of a sudden yank). I have no problems squatting or bending and it being related to bones have been ruled out (sort of) as I already took an x-ray.

As for swimming, I don't like going to public pools or just being in swimwear in public. XD I also barely passed the first level swimming class so I'd probably mostly spend time floating than actually doing the motion. :3

Hirm, the time of month (a.k.a THE VISITOR) should be coming soon. DDDD: Hopefully, I won't have irritating feelings when it happens since I already had them beforehand. XD

[AllenSmithee]

I'm glad you had a good day

I feel your pain. Gym class is the only thing stopping me from being fatso, but I'm not taking it next year D: A sports team? I dunno... It would be very challenging to fit in those hours. ):

I have a lot of problems like the leg thing. Well, I don't think I have blood clots... However, I have Osgood Schlatters disease, which is a bump of cartilage and bone and stuff rubbing off into a painful bump on me knee, and I have arthritis, and I get cramps/muscle pulls REALLY easily. Like if I stretch wrong my legs go into super pain, and I cannot sit cross legged. However, it doesn't really stop me from doing things... But I'm a boy so I get all BRING ON THE PAIN about it. Hahaha.

I dunno, floating is still good. Swimming really DOES clear the mind. About the swimwear thing? I can relate! I'm a hairy guy, and I have a bit of a tummy (although everyone denies it), so I get really embarrassed. I wish I could just get a Brazillian Wax or something, hahaha. But then again, that'd be more awkward than anything...

This reminds me of the question I've been wondering for a while. Is it weird that I know when my closest female friend has her's? I assure you, I didn't learn it from creepy ways, it is just she warns me when it is happening and such and such. So yes. Is that weird? Or to be expected? (Plus, you can usually tell, or at least I can since I hang out with so many girls, I've learned many ways)

But yes, cheer up! You can do it Nunuu

[Lumi]

Ahem... Just to clarify on my point of that 'really good friend' being a helpful element...

Simply put: If they're annoying you or overbearing when you're in one of those funks or moods, they're not the kind of friend I'm referring to at all.

I'm talking about the one who can lift your spirits without actively TRYING to, who hears you out if you need it and DOESN'T feel obligated to offer advice you didn't ask for. It's possible not everyone has a friend like this, I guess... They come few and far between.

But hey, active distractions work too! ...Also, gaming. Specifically the kind that lets you mindlessly plow through enemies. XD