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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 3, 2009 22:41:07 GMT -5
Now, while this may be a bad place to ask. I mean most of us are single or use Internet Dating Services I know you're all cool doodz and probably have sexy advice for me! So, I will ask.
Now, I've liked this girl for a while and was gonna ask her out earlier, but didn't get around to it. HOWEVER, I am willing to TRY AGAIN! Now, I've been given some help, but I really don't know what to do... What would be best for a first date? I'm thinking a movie, since you don't need to talk much (in case it is awkward) and there is something to talk about after.
What is an appropriate movie? I'd definitely give her the final decision (after all she is a lady, and it is SO cliche of a guy to choose some bullshit action flick), but I should think of something for a recommendation right?
Or would, like coffee be better? I suck at eating so that may be a problem and I am afraid of that...
Another thing. A story.
My friend was telling me about this girl checking one of us out, and it turned out it was this girl who I found extremely attractive.
... I didn't do anything. Man, I shoulda! I should've just asked my bro for some money, talked to her, payed for her meal (she was in line) and gotten something for meself. Damn, what a missed opportunity. I mean, while I do like the other girl, and a lot too, if something like this happened there would be no harm in trying to get somewhere because I may like this person too!
Now a hypothetical question: what if I saw her again!? :O
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Post by rocket on Jan 4, 2009 0:02:46 GMT -5
Being a dino myself, I would have to say go out with the girl. If not anything else you will gain experience. The more experience the better. I donft recommend movies. I have had a few dates in life that like to watch my face at the movie. It wasnft because I am good looking. Seems the lady I was with was big into physiology so she like to figure out facial behavior in response to the movie. Yuck. My experience for a new is do an activity that mixes both physical activity and time to talk. Something like carnival or amusement park etc. hell ice-skating would be good for where you live. Skate for a bit and have lunch.
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Post by Justin on Jan 4, 2009 0:12:38 GMT -5
Man you have to leave yourself open to change. Check movie times, because they all usually start in the same time frame. Dinner time movies always start between 6:30pm and like 7:15, so just plan on showing up at the movies in between that time. Make sure to ask her if there is anything she wants to see, and if she is like 90% of her species, she will say "Mmm not sure, I am fine with whatever" <------ WRONG, but here is where you score brownie points. First you get some for thinking about her, and asking what her opinion was, second, if she throws it at you, pick something you will both enjoy. Make it a stupid comedy (Yes Man is totally perfect for this!!!!), or a Slasher/Summer blockbuster.
Now hopefully there is a Mall or something by the theater. You guys can meet their first, and grab a drink (Jugo Juice, Starbucks, Orange Julius), and you can ask if she is hungry. Ask once, don't push, because girls all think they are fat. Offer, offer, offer, but don't push. Also, attempt to pay, and if she says "No I can pay my way" then LET HER. Girls like individuality, and taking care of their own affairs.
Most of all, be yourself, and don't gossip. If conversation starts to wain, make fun of someone you both dislike. Nothing brings people together faster than joking about common dislikes.
Oh and being that your 14, don't try any funny business on the first date. Most chicks only know what Cosmo and Sex ED has told them, and they will respect your patience.
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Post by rocket on Jan 4, 2009 0:22:38 GMT -5
Ouch i should have clarified that I have found movies to not be good for a first date. Part of it is in not knowing the other persons taste in movies. The activity with talking usually leads to getting to know the person better and there tastes in movies.
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Post by Justin on Jan 4, 2009 2:37:54 GMT -5
Smith, you got a ton of snow over the weekend, right?? Why not take her tobogganing?
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Post by Incog Neato on Jan 4, 2009 9:25:45 GMT -5
I say don't generalize. :P Not every single girl thinks she's fat, etc. I agree that it's definitely a good thing to be empathic and ask what she wants to see and do but you have to be careful not to come across as being indecisive though. :B
I'm definitely no expert on the whole dating bit since the first time that I had a movie date, I totally misunderstood the guy and didn't realize that it was an actual date. 9______________9
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 4, 2009 12:10:25 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice guys! Seeing as there are food places in the theater that would work perfect if I do that route.
As for tabogganing, I'll have to check if I still have anything/anywhere to do it! I don't know about my area (it is downtown almost).
The biggest problem about going anywhere is that there is a bus strike. This is bad news, so it would probably have to revolve around going after school, no?
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Post by Justin on Jan 5, 2009 8:53:20 GMT -5
Hmm probably, I forgot your having a bus strike. You can always throw snowballs at the striking bus drivers  |
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Post by rocket on Jan 5, 2009 22:15:30 GMT -5
Smith, you got a ton of snow over the weekend, right?? Why not take her tobogganing? that is a great idea. bus drivers on strike? he he. they started a new bus route infront of my job sunday. by this morning one of the buses got into a really bad accident. Allen, let us all know how the date turns out and what you decide on. |
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 5, 2009 22:24:11 GMT -5
Well after a little listening and stuff it turns out she already has a boyfriend. Oh well!
Funny thing is: I thought the guy was gay. Hmmm. Oh well, there are more fish in the sea. Maybe next time something like at the mall happens I'll take the chance, eh.
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Post by Musa-Revived on Jan 5, 2009 23:12:37 GMT -5
Hey, don't fret. Lot's of chances for you. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger  Who knows maybe she thinks her boyfriend is too gay or something |
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 5, 2009 23:14:20 GMT -5
Ha ha, yeah. I'll have chances with plenty other girls, and maybe with her again later  |
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Post by MonoTekETeA on Jan 7, 2009 14:08:56 GMT -5
Lol Justin, you are a pimp!
Allen, that's whats up, I have a friend right now who is down in the dumps with girls. ::Rolls eyes:: Nothing to get worked up about. You got a good head on your shoulders, rock and roll.
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 7, 2009 14:25:40 GMT -5
Want some really good advice? Don't get drunk and talk to chicks. It's a really, really really stupid thing to do. XD Especially if drinking makes you more honest than you need to be. XD
I turn into a honest "I have no secrets", philosophical stoner (that doesn't get high or stoned) when I'm drunk. XD
It really sucks sometimes, but I don't mind as long as people like... just believe that my drunk side is a playful liar and not to be taken seriously. XD
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 7, 2009 16:35:24 GMT -5
I ain't touching alcohol. My sister has problems with that, and I get addicted to things too easily, so I gotta watch out for substance.
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 7, 2009 16:45:58 GMT -5
XD Man. Last night, I wanted to see how fast I could chug Guinness. It took me 1:15 m:ss >.<" It's not easy because it does NOT want to come out of the bottle. So I was like... *stop the beer flow, inhale through nose, exhale into bottle to start the beer flow* XD
It was freakin COLD too. XD
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 8, 2009 4:30:50 GMT -5
I dunno. D: I feel verrrrry... I dunno what the word is. I know I have a problem. The problem is mine. That problem, that I have. Is a big problem. Like. I get all emo when I hear about sex. I get all emo when I hear about ex. I get all emo period, and it's pissing me off. . Cause I'm getting emo around someone I don't wanna get emo around, and I just plain fucking don't wanna get emo!!! . How the fuck do I solve this... I mean, maybe it's the general prospect that a relationship CAN occur, but like, because of this I get emo and worked up? What the shit is that... but like, Nunuu doesn't make me emo, and Yakra doesn't make me emo. It's just... one person that I get emo around. Maybe I'm just an emo asshole and I'm good at hiding my emo shit? I mean... but I don't hide it around her. I just... I realize how screwed up I am. I wanna fix myself.  Cause I'm a great guy. With a great mind. Who will do great things. And I have to get past these feelings. Because I want to be able to move on. And have a happy life. And possibly indulge in the prospect of possible relationships. But I'm all emo and worked-up. I don't know why... |
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 8, 2009 5:19:01 GMT -5
Or OPTION FOUR we could remain anonymous internet friends who never ever meet. XD Which, I'd be okay with. Cause. I dunno. Talking to you, I realize my shit's not together yet. I feel very uncomfortable about this. And. I wanna like. Fix myself up nicely. Cause, I notice myself getting all emo-like and it's not right, cause I'm being all... how do I put it... exclusively so. Like, you're the only person that sees my emo side like, it's starting to become a daily routine, you seeing this. I don't like that. ...and that'd be a rocky way to start a decent friendship. and I want our friendship to be awesome and magical. XD I'm so sorry. T_T It's not fine. The fact that I have to fix myself in the first place is all messed up. I thought 2008 fixed me. But I realize now what a mess I am. I mean, it could be that I'm always tired and like, because I don't sleep much, I'm not taking good enough care of myself. and maybe that's why my mind's being bad. and making me be asshurt over nothing. T_T *hugs self* But yeh. I need to take care of myself. If I get better anytime soon, you'll be the first to know, because I'm genuinely interested in you and our friendship. Thank you. God damn you're awesome. Clearly.  Cause like, you're so accepting and nice about all this, me not wanting to get off on the wrong foot. (Although, is there REALLY a right foot to get off on? XD) |
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 8, 2009 16:25:09 GMT -5
So.
I need to be positive.
I looked up white fluffy bunnies to put me in a happy place.
I need more happy place positive energy.
I need to see the things I love, and...
and...
make myself a happy person.
Make myself happy.
Because I am what I make myself.
I cannot ascertain true friendship, until I make myself a true friend.
So I will make myself that person.
// Cause I am awesome.
I want to be awesome all the time.
Cause I am happy.
I want to be happy all the time.
Cause I am loving.
I want to be loving all the time.
Cause I am pure and thoughtful.
I want to be pure and thoughtful all the time.
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 8, 2009 16:31:10 GMT -5
Dood I actually know how you feel  |
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