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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 17, 2009 16:19:09 GMT -5
I agree with our highly illegible rocket.  It's better to ask your galpal before engaging in a relationship with her best friend. Since this is her best friend you'd be talking about, though, be prepared for them to talk about you. |
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 17, 2009 18:28:41 GMT -5
Yeah, that is exactly what I thought I'd do. I guess it is worth a shot to talk to my friend first. Hell, that could even manage to get me an idea of what she thinks of me
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 17, 2009 18:30:23 GMT -5
That's the way to do it! Positive thinking! Go get 'em!
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 23, 2009 7:56:50 GMT -5
Okay
I just realized how much support I have in this. I don't even want to like, have a sexual relationship with her. Or even a romantic relationship. All I really want is to know her! To be with her. God damn, I've never felt this way before. Its kinda wonderful, but it sucks because sometimes it feels like I need to be with her. Hell, I go to school to see her (although, that gave me a purpose to go, so its kinda good)
I seriously just want to be with her. This is the deepest I've ever had a crush on someone.
And all that may sound creepy, but I posted it to give you an idea of how much I want to be successful with our relationship.
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 23, 2009 8:10:27 GMT -5
I speak from experience when I say, it DOES get easier with time, the desire part. Everything, and I mean everything takes time -- trivial and non. (:
I'm sorry if that sounded cryptic, but that is all that I could say without crossing the line.
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 23, 2009 12:26:45 GMT -5
Well I'm just worried that if I feel that way it makes me a creepster :/
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 23, 2009 12:55:25 GMT -5
Well... let's see if I can't help you out.
It's been known to be unhealthy, to become emotionally dependant on someone else. I don't think it makes you a creep or anything, but it can have adverse affects on you, mentally and emotionally. Whenever you feel like you NEED someone, especially to an insurmountable extent, it's best that you try to push these thoughts out or otherwise, distract yourself. Play a game, watch TV, masturbate, do something that doesn't involve thinking of "the girl" on a dependant basis. You need to find your inner center, and work with it; balance yourself so that you can achieve your regular/neutral mental-emotional state or even better, a happy mental-emotional state.
Believe me, because if you get too intensely worked up into a great happy fit of euphoria with a chick, you will fall even harder -- and getting yourself out of that emotional ditch won't be a picnic by ANY means.
Again, just speaking from personal experience. Pick away what you don't care to read, and listen to the good parts when necessary. ;D
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 23, 2009 12:57:18 GMT -5
Well I over exaggerated on many levels.
She's just a sexy lady! One who's got a sexy personality. I was basically putting it into crazy words.
But yeah, anyone find it weird when you find... not the most attractive people the most attractive? Or am I just fucked up?
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 23, 2009 13:05:18 GMT -5
Don't let it get to you if you find someone attractive that nobody else finds attractive. Wyrdwad and I both love BBW, or Big Beautiful Women, for instance. I don't think that bodyfat is unattractive, and infact adds to cuddle-points. ;3 Think about it, you can wrap your arms around them without feeling like you'll break them, and you can even squish them if you'd like! ;3 That's what a call a worthwhile bonus! That's why I'm not too fond of my body-type. It can't squish at all! ;3 Anyway, what I'm trying to say, is that it's good and fine, it's OKAY to like, or even love someone that others find unappealing!  Think of it this way: that's more of her that you can have, all to yourself! |
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 23, 2009 13:07:01 GMT -5
Ha ha, well she isn't UGLY by any means. At all. She just has a lot of tomboy attributes and shit.
Not to say BBWs are ugly. Or BMWs. HITLER MOBILES
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 23, 2009 13:16:42 GMT -5
Boozed-up Moron Wagons! XD
I've known some tomboys to be QUITE hot! Nothing wrong with that! Androgynous chicks are sweet! Honestly, they are the closest I'd EVER want to get to dating real men! ;3
That's not to say that I don't find men attractive, I'd just rather have a taco instead of pork for lunch! ;D On the other hand, I think it'd be sweet if I could find myself a hermaphrodite, who is dominantly a woman by genetics. X3
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 23, 2009 13:26:04 GMT -5
That is actually kinda creepy
And that is coming from a bi-sexual.
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 23, 2009 13:42:27 GMT -5
Yeah, I can be kinda creepy sometimes, but that's just me. X3
PERFECT! I just thought of something! Why do hermaphrodites exist, if marriage is "SUPPOSED" to be between a man and a woman? Hermaphrodites aren't at fault by any means, and they're technically hetero/bi no matter who they bang! Therefore, you CAN have your cake AND eat it, too! ^_~
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 23, 2009 14:31:56 GMT -5
Well its good to know how I feel is normal.
Yeah, good to know.
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Post by sanoichiro on Jan 24, 2009 4:38:25 GMT -5
You guys need to get some exercise. If you just sit around, you WILL get depressed. Ever heard of runner's high? That's the good stuff. Truest words EVER. 3 years ago I was going through a bad divorce. I got cheated on, I had no confinence. Life blew. But I got back into my martial arts, and weights, and all kinds of excercise. Endorphens(?) man. That stuff is like CRACK (addicting). Sure fire way to make your problems disolve without any guilt or bodily harm. That feeling when you're crawling on all fours, sucking air like it's going outa style. Makes you feel alive. Also, just decide who you want to be, and do it. I used to be way to sensitive, and jealous, cause I was insecure. I forced myself to be laid back and cool. I told myself that I was. That took away the insecurity and made it easier to be me. |
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Post by sanoichiro on Jan 24, 2009 4:54:21 GMT -5
Unsavory Fieg,
You spead a LOT of wisdom. How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? Your post about emotional dependancy was perfect man. I have been on both ends of that type of relationship, and you sound like you've got that part figured out too.
Allen, I think that it's great that you look past sheer physical appeal to see the innder sexy of this girl. And I'm sorry, cause I hate people to rain on MY parades, but I have to ask. I don't care what other people think.
Do you find her physically attractive?
It's not shallow to not find someone attractive. Even if they're great, you have to have at least some attraction. If you do though... then rock on
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Post by Ascended Mermaid on Jan 24, 2009 5:06:08 GMT -5
I am 21, and I've had a lot of experience with relationships, starting from the age of 16. I've spiralled downward for the most part. It took until the last quarter of my 19th year to realize the flaws in my mentality, and correct them. That, however, came at an expensive price. So expensive, infact, that I continue to pay for it today.
The year 2008, my 21st year, was both a spiralling year and an educational year for me. I became a recluse, and evaded as much social and physical contact with the outside world as possible.
Now the year 2009, I plan on setting things right once more; my mindset, my emotions, and hopefully my immune system. It is my resolution.
I am very observant of myself, which is how I came to release what wisdom I have. One of the most important things you can do in your life, is to get to know yourself; to figure out what you are becoming, and to sculpt yourself into the person that you want to be. When you find that the circumstances aren't in your favor, the best place to begin looking, is typically within yourself.
// I am a bit fatigued, so I have had to make some corrections to this post, that I personally agree with.
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Post by AllenSmithee on Jan 24, 2009 14:59:04 GMT -5
Oh yes, yes I do. I'm going through a bit of a make-over soon. I'm buying a bunch of new clothes, and getting my hair cut, and my eyebrows waxed, and my mustache destroyed and everything at a salon and I have absolute confidence. People say that it is about you that makes one feel good, but if you feel you look good it definitely helps. I cannot wait!  That is gonna be my hair! |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 25, 2009 18:00:07 GMT -5
well, if relationships dont work out.... girls can be real heart-breakers. Its a different kind of pain and it is painful, suffocating pain at times...
I hope everything works out for you, asking a girl out is a very, very tough thing to do but its part of life. Its all about confidence and it seems like you have what it takes.
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Post by sanoichiro on Jan 25, 2009 18:56:41 GMT -5
I hear ya there Fleg. It's funny how when you get older you realize the things that you let shape you (like abandonment issues, or trust issues). Asking yourself the question "Why do I act the way I act? Why do I feel the way I feel?" Is a scary but ultimately rewarding experience. My EX wife has no clue who she really is, and I hope she figures it out. Knowing who you are is awesome, but there's no shame in havine do re-check time again. I have to do it all the time.
And right on Allen. It's true about the self image. I've seen many girls who I would find very attractive if they had confidence. I've seen many that are beautiful BECAUSE they are confident. I'm sure it goes the same for them too.
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It's better to ask your galpal before engaging in a relationship with her best friend.
Think of it this way: that's more of her that you can have, all to yourself!
